8 Warning Signs You’re Becoming Sibling Spouses

1. You don’t have a problem walking in on each other in the bathroom.
2. You sleep in the same bed but it doesn’t feel like there’s anyone else there but you.
3. When you receive news – good or bad – he’s not the first person you text.
4. You both look like slobs at home.
5. On the rare occasions you share a meal, you don’t have anything to say to each other.
6. You squabble over the silliest things, the way you and your brother did.
7. You rarely give a thought to what he thinks. Neither does he care what’s on your mind.
8. You can’t remember the last time you had sex. What’s worse, you’re not in the least turned on by him.

STRATEGY 1:
Don’t Talk, Take Action

Life coach Marmee Morin, director of MC Consulting & Coaching, understands the importance of the sexual aspect of a marriage. “Men don’t usually like to talk about things, so, it's often up to the woman to take matters into her own hands – not by talking, but by taking action.”

Marmee says to harness the power of touch whenever you can. For instance, connect by hugging – a full body hug – three or four times a day for at least five seconds each time. When you’re in the same room, like at mealtimes, make eye contact. And hold hands when you’re watching television.

She suggests the highly effective “nightly embrace”. Hug each other at bedtime and let the warmth flow over you. It doesn’t have to lead to anything more and you certainly shouldn't try to talk through it. Just be there and luxuriate in each other’s touch. Let your hearts do the communicating.

STRATEGY 2:
Remember that Men are Visual Creatures

Sometimes, you can stir up a little sexual activity with nothing else but sheer novelty. Jenny and Mike Koh successfully resurrected their sex life with a hotel staycation and sizzling hot lingerie. Did it feel contrived? Jenny admits that at first, it did, but once you get started, neither of you will care.

“After that, I just started doing the things I used to do when we first met. I started dressing up, and straightening our room and bed to make it more inviting. I invested in new sheets and bath products. It didn’t take long to bring us back.”

STRATEGY 3:
Appreciate and Initiate

Pay him unexpected compliments. Express appreciation for the things he does. Give him a quick hug to thank him. Reach for his hand and squeeze it when you’re happy about something. And don’t be afraid to initiate sex.

The most important thing about going from sibling spouses to sexual ones is that you must want to do it. Think about it: Do you want your marriage to just slip away? Or do you want to do all you can to revive it and keep it vibrant. It’s really all up to you.

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Posted by Purity And Simplicity at 09:41